Boundary Buster #5 - Punitiveness and ANGER (cont.)

Continuing the idea of de-escalating your anger, which Allison and I were talking about on our radio show, there is an acronym for ANGER that she uses in her Parent Child Connection Course.

A - Attend to your early signals of anger. What do you feel in your body? When you are aware of the early signals you can have strategies and choices around your behaviour.

N - Negotiate with those around you. Don't talk about the issues but choose a later time to discuss. Come up with a signal to let others know you are angry and need space. E.g. "Give me five."

G - Gear down from the behaviours to giving some thought to what and why certain things are triggering your behaviour. (This part is done alone - by yourself.)

E - Express your feelings and needs more assertively.

R - Resolve issues if possible, either through conflict resolution or within yourself.

If you'd like a more complete explanation of these steps, please click HERE.

For more on punitiveness and ANGER, tune into Island Parent Radio on Village 900, on Tuesday June 19th at 7 pm (PST) or Sunday morning (June 24th) at 9 am (PST) and hear our complete discussion.