Values for Relationships

As mentioned in an earlier post, Allison and I discussed on our radio show, how values are the important underpinnings of a successful relationship-be that a marriage, partnership, parent/child, etc. Within the context of a marriage/partnership there are some core values that can be identified that help keep the relationship together.

If one believes the myths, you might expect that people's tastes, interests, personality types and temperaments would be the glue that binds. In fact, if you look deeper, this is not the case.

What are some of the values that are shared that keep the relationship together. Well the first is a mutual interest in personal growth. It is important to recognise that each person in a relationship—marriage, family, friendship, etc.—has the opportunity and support for personal growth. I can think of many instances where a marriage/partnership has foundered when one person desires to take on some challenges which entails personal growth and the other person is not supportive.

Personal growth then is one of these primary values to keep relationships successful.