Conflict

As you said conflict is not wholly synonymous with fighting. Conflict is certainly a part of all relationships. Not necessarily a huge part but is definitely seen in all relationships. When I do see couples that truly fight (frequently), I do wonder how long the relationship will last.

With respect to our children, there needs to be some conflict for them to spread their wings and leave the nest. I remember hearing that children must separate from (and have some sort of conflict) with their parents and family in order to develop their independence. This does not have to be earth-shattering stuff but we all are individuals and learning to work resolve issues/conflicts with others is an important part of maturing.

By the way, Allison, isn't sibling rivalry a form of conflict? (I know this is your favourite topic—not— but certainly one that families deal with constantly.) When all is said and done, siblings often are the best of friends despite all the conflicts they've had over their childhood.